Love

Just because someone doesn't love you the way that you want them to, doesn't mean that they don't love you with everything they have.

--anonymous

This sentence has spoken to me for many years. I keep forgetting it and it applies to all relationships. It applies to romantic relationships, friendships, and family.

When I want someone to treat me a certain way and they don't and then they treat someone else the way I want to be treated, it's hard to deal with. It makes me feel as though I'm lacking something and I am in some way unloveable. That is so not true.

The lesson is that they aren't loving me the way I want them to, not that they don't love me.

The lesson should also be to find the things they are doing for me. Those should count, too. Those should count more because they are given freely.

Speak about the wants.

Speak about the needs.

Just don't forget the givens and remember to always count your blessings.